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September Visiting Teaching Message

September Visiting Teaching Message

The September Visiting teaching Message is titled, “The Divine Mission of Jesus Christ: Comforter” and can be found here, September Message. It happens sometimes,that a full article can not be posted online for copyright issues. This is one of those times. Luckily, I have a […]

August 2014 VT Message

August 2014 VT Message

  This month’s VT message is about how Christ is our Messiah. The word Messiah means deliverer. I immediately thought of the the Israelites and how they were delivered, so many times. The game I chose this month is called “Journey into Egypt”. It can be […]

Confession: I Dress My….Lies

Confession: I Dress My….Lies

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Ok,so there is this new trend among the women in my ward. It is a book called “Dress Your Truth.” I’ve read some of it….

Here’s the thing sisters, I’m too busy trying to dress my fat to bother with how to dress my truth. And of course, you know, my fat is a lie. Under this bulgy, wrinkly, saggy  facade is a pretty young thing with beautiful hips and a flat tummy. I knew quite well how to dress that!! As long as I was modest I was fine. And I do mean FIIIIINE….but now I can’t find pants with a high enough waste or shirts long enough to cover all the lies I have!!!

I should tell you now, that this sturdy t-shirt I’m wearing, is covering the heart of a 1950’s woman. You know the kind. She’s wearing a beautiful dress with a matching, apron, while making the most beautiful meal. Her hair is done her children are tidy and her world is lit with the colors of her truth. All the while, I am searching, searching, for a stain resistant, smell resistant, easy to clean, elegant, lovely, loose fitting, comfortable, inexpensive, ensemble to wear for motherhood.

PLEASE comment if you have cracked that code already. Because that is a book I would read cover to cover!!!

There’s more….the books in my well stocked library are hiding all the jewelry I probably should have bought instead. Because when one is as poor as I, one has to make a concerted choice; to develop the mind or decorate the body. As one gets older, the decision becomes harder. Mainly because one is loosing both their mind and their body. Sometimes, it is easier to hide the former by investing in the later. But not me. I will not let my mind go down without a fight. It won’t matter how beautiful I look, It won’t matter how much jewelry I am wearing, it won’t even matter what color I am wearing, at my daughter’s wedding, if I can’t remember it. It has been proven that reading consistently, will dramatically, decrease a person’s risk for Alzheimer’s.

It all seems so superficial really, to focus so much on what you are wearing, and how you look. I can’t imagine Molly in anything but a modest frock with with a lovely apron, a clean appearance and a wedding band. When I explained to my husband that an underlying theme in the book seemed to say that if you don’t dress your truth you will not be accepted and everyone will know….He said, “Yes, that is true.” I gasped at the thought. He said that rarely, are good people, who are willing to meet the standards of God, accepted. I gasped again at the correlation. It never occurred to me before, that even Molly, a person who I look up to, who I strive to be like, who’s standards I try so hard, on this blog, to meet…..isn’t very well liked. In fact she is made fun of and ridiculed and laughed at and in some crowds, even hated. The truth is how you dress determines how you behave. The Lord has set those standards for us in the church. We are to dress modestly. Modest means so much more than just being covered.

In the end, I was liberated from my harsh winter season color chart, by reading this book, but it was short lived. I found myself coveting a new wardrobe, acceptance from my neighbor, and a trip to Tiffany’s. All things I normally try to avoid. I put the book down, looked deep into the eyes of my two year old who had just got ketchup all over my new white t-shirt and smiled at the thought that it wasn’t dry clean only, poured some club soda on it and happily went about my chores.

My name is Bianca, and I dress my lies. Instead of designer I wear cheap, instead of jewelry I buy books, instead of striving for acceptance I strive to meet standards, instead of colorful, I am modest. What ya gonna do? Always something to work on.

So, next time I am at Costco…I’ll check if they have any of those sturdy t-shirts in my color list. If any of you are wondering….I’m a type 4.

Love you Always,

Bianca

 

 

 

  

 

July 2014 VT Handout

July 2014 VT Handout

This Month’s message is about how Christ is our Advocate. You just have to watch 17 Miracles once, to know just how much of an advocate Christ was for the pioneers. How he helped them, got them out of difficult situations and how much he […]

Walking With Jesus VT Handout ( June 2014)

Walking With Jesus VT Handout ( June 2014)

  This month’s message speaks a lot about Christ’s Ministry. Here is a link to a game from the Friend magazine that sums up the message and will double as a FHE lesson. Walking Where Jesus Walked  

May 2014 VT Message

May 2014 VT Message

For this months VT message from the April 2014 General Conference, I picked the talk titled, “Live True to the Faith”. It can be found here in case the link gets broken: http://media.ldscdn.org/pdf/general-conference/april-2014-general-conference/2014-04-5020-elder-william-r-walker-eng.pdf

It is about Family History and how it can strengthen us. For the game I chose “Family History ABC’s.”  It can be found here:

https://www.lds.org/friend/2002/02/family-history-abcs?lang=eng

Unfortunately, again, there are no pictures. Maybe clipart or type the words up on pretty paper?

Enjoy!

April 2014 VT Handout

April 2014 VT Handout

This month’s VT message is about how Jesus is our savior and redeemer. The New Testament Scripture Story Grab Bag Game says it all. It is a fun game with no wrong answer. Fun for the whole family and a great way to tell the […]

March 2014 VT Handout Time to Shine

March 2014 VT Handout Time to Shine

It is time to shine! For the March Visiting Teaching Handout, I will be giving my sisters a copy of this game from the friend magazine along with a copy of the message. It is a practical way to help our sisters teach the concept […]

Feb. 2014 VT The Good Shepard Game

Feb. 2014 VT The Good Shepard Game

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This months visiting teaching message is about Christ as the good Shepard. Here is a link to the game. The Good Shepard Game

The message can be found here: http://media.ldscdn.org/pdf/magazines/liahona-february-2014/2014-02-03-the-divine-mission-of-jesus-christ-good-shepherd-eng.pdf

Confession: La Baguette Parisienne

Confession: La Baguette Parisienne

Molly bakes bread. Everyone knows that. She does it cheerfully. She does it perfectly.  It is just a part of her identity… “Life is just too short,” I said to a friend the other day. “Not just my life but my children’s lives,” I continued. […]